A colleague was telling me how he was struggling with his three-year-old marriage. I asked him: "When did you last say something nice to your wife?"
"Like what?" he replied.
That impromptu moment set me thinking big-time. What if he really doesn't know how to say nice things to those he is trying to love? Does he really not have the words in his mind?
In the weeks that have followed I've been assembling all sorts of 'nice things' we could say to each other - just in case the cupboard is bare.
Sometimes all we need is a bit of a jump start. The next few blogs will hold out jumper leads for those who are in need of a bit of spark.
I've just re-published "The Five Biggies" - my 2010 expose on workplace engagement. I did months of research back then and found the same reports no matter where I looked. The same five dynamics were being adopted to address the very costly problem of disengagement in the workplace.
Have a look:
Like so many others I felt annoyed and deprived by the pre-election imbroglio. Day after day all that distracting stuff from outsiders when I just needed to hear what our political leaders had in mind for us for the next three years.
The Bible says: “A man’s mischief will recoil upon his own head.” I witnessed that on election night. There was a lot of dishonesty and distortion leading up to the election but then on Saturday the people spoke. Good sense prevailed. Our deep wish for stable government came true. Fair and square.
The voter turnout (77.04%) was better than some countries but did not proudly reflect the true “Kiwi Spirit”. We’re not a lazy Nation, the weather wasn’t too bad. But I suspect that most of the missing 22.96% of registered voters simply got turned off by the pre-election mayhem. Those who did vote, spoke loudly, 48% of the total vote to National is a pretty clear indication of the Nation’s desire I’d say.
The "Split Vote"
The new New Lynn electorate which now includes part of Avondale, gave a predictable win to David Cunliffe. Embarrassingly though for Mr. Cunliffe, the Party Vote was won by National with a respectable count. This split-vote phenomenon was prevalent throughout the West.
National’s list MP for New Lynn is Tim Groser: “In political terms, this election result is another example of the old saying that the electorate has a high degree of common sense and the ability to see through an avalanche of half-truths and the over-hyped but barely relevant debates that reach fever-pitch during election campaigns.”
Business Confidence Maintained
Tim Groser: “Economically, it gives New Zealand businesses and households every reason for confidence that the foundations of sustained, superior, economic outcomes in the next 10 - 20 years are absolutely attainable.”
These sentiments are being reflected by local business leaders I have spoken to. For example: “I am thrilled with the emphatic result on Saturday. All of the side-show antics only diminished certainty, and did nothing for the promotion of clear party positions for people to evaluate and vote on. I now have confidence to invest in the future of my 30-year-old renewable energy business.” Ray Littin, Power Technology, Lincoln Road.